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Quit Trying To Overcome Your Fear of Driving - Part II got an email today that’s very typical of a mistake people make all the time when they’re trying to conquer their driving anxiety. Let’s see if you can see what it is… “I’ve been trying so hard to beat this fear, I really have. I started taking a yoga class, I’ve read 4 books THIS WEEK on anxiety, I meditate for 40 minutes twice a day, and every time I get in the car I listen to your program. What else can I do to rid myself of this anxiety faster? I’ll do anything!!!” Here’s a nugget of truth that’s going to help you in far more than just overcoming your fear of driving, ready? You
get more of
whatever you focus on. Don’t you already know that to be true? If you’re depressed, it’s easy for everything to be miserable and very tough for things to seem positive, so it’s easy to get even more depressed. When you’re happy, isn’t it a lot easier to laugh than when you’re sad? Have you ever seen a funny movie in a bad mood? Was it as good as it would have been if you weren’t in that negative state of mind? The same is true with your fear of driving and with anxiety in general. You need to know the fundamentals of how to conquer your driving phobia, and to have a plan, that’s where my program comes in, but once you have that plan, you’re NOT going to rid yourself of driving anxiety by making it the central theme of your life! One of the big problems, as you learn about in the Driving Fear Program, is that you’re paying your anxiety much more attention than most people do and that’s a big reason why you have such a problem with it. You need to focus LESS on it, not MORE. I admire the desire to attack it with both barrels, and that’s what I did for a long time, but it’s not the way out. The more you attack it, the more you reinforce to yourself that it’s NOT ok to have anxiety, and the more you feed it. And what happens to things you feed? Right, they grow. It’s counterintuitive, I know, the whole anxiety game is that way. (Check out my free report at www.TheAnxietyGame.com to understand what I mean a little better). I knew I was well on my way to recovery from my anxiety when I was able to tell it, “Not now, I’ll deal with you later, I’m busy” when I felt my anxiety surface. Life needs to take priority over your fear. Since you have a problem with anxiety, you’re probably a very driven and determined person, so this is going to be a bit tough, I admit it’s a bit of a balancing act. That’s why there’s two parts to this article, next week I’m going to have another way to look at it that I think will shed a little more light on it and help you really understand why focusing and fighting it is such a problem and is actually a barrier to overcoming your fear of driving. |
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